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Divorce Mediation or Divorce Litigation - Part Two

4/22/2017

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In our last blog post on this subject we explored two differences between a mediated divorce and a litigated divorce.  The first two differences we mentioned were 1) you can have a mutual decision about who is going to be the Petitioner and when the Petition is filed to begin the court portion of the divorce case; and 2) the parties can confer and even work together on doing the Disclosure documents (Schedule of Assets and Debts - FL-142, FL-150, and FL-140).  

In this blog post we are going to look at matters that may need immediate decisions made such as support and custody/visitation of the children.  When people are in transition from a married couple living together to two household units there are a number of matters to be figured out.  The issue that almost every couple has is the division of the incomes of the parties and the payment of the obligations.  In my mediation sessions, I ask the parties to ‘pencil out’ their expenses or anticipated expenses if they haven’t moved yet.  A good tool for this is page 3 - Expenses - of the Income & Expense Declaration.  That is a very basic list of expenses so you can also look at your expense records and see what you are spending your money on.  

This is a time of reckoning for both parties.  Often, if one of the parties doesn’t want the divorce and feels like a victim, the negotiation of how to allocate the income of the parties for short term living expenses and moving has an emotional charge on it.  Likewise, there are complex emotions surrounding where the children will spend their time.  These issues are best discussed with the mediator – a neutral third party, rather than preparing paperwork with (usually) ugly, hurtful, and emotional allegations.  These emotions are often said out loud to each other in my office, and often need to be said.  But this can be part of the process of the separation of the family and it is much safer to have them said in my office with the three of us than in court papers which are public documents where anyone can go to the courthouse and read them.       

When the parties reach an agreement on how to handle the finances and children for the short term, we can write out a temporary agreement.  We can adjust it as time moves forward and the circumstances of the parties change.  

This scenario is vastly different from the one in which the parties file motions with the court and put their often ugly and angry allegations about each other into public court documents.  There are often many court appearances to resolve even simple issues that can run into the thousands of dollars.  

We are here to help and answer your questions about the process.  

Contact Us to Learn More.

Email us at [email protected], or call us at 831-372-3900 or text us at 831-275-5291 (275-LAW1).  

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Our Free Consultations

4/16/2017

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debravcrawford.cliogrow.com/intake/306fc49320418c3c8af9139ecec8dc99​We offer free consultations.  We believe that this is a benefit to both you and the attorney.  In the consultation you have a chance to ask your questions about your situation and the attorney can explain the law and procedures that you will be facing in your situation.  Sometimes we can offer practical solutions that don’t involve going to court.  We can also advise you on the most efficient way to handle your case and explain how particular attorneys in our community work and what that will mean for your case.  

Another benefit of the free consultation is the opportunity for you to meet with Debra one on one so that you can get to know each other and see how you will work together.  A family law matter is a very personal matter and you must feel comfortable with each other.  Debra has been through a divorce and understands how emotional this can be.  It is sometimes surprising how emotional it is to be in the lawyer’s office even if you think you are ready for it.  We can offer ideas to help you through this time – whatever stressful situation you are facing.  

As an attorney and a mediator, Debra can explain what the effect of each method of proceeding will have on your case.  Debra can also analyze your situation and help you decide which method will work best for you.  

Debra explains the different ways we help people – mediation, full representation, and ‘unbundled services’ which can be anything from document preparation to helping you prepare for court.  

One of the biggest advantages that Debra offers is practical solutions to your case.  While some attorneys will advise you to run to court, Debra may help you communicate with the other party in a more effective manner to avoid the extra fees.  Debra can also advise to as to whether, given your history with the other party, court may be your only solution.  

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    Debra
    Vaniman
    Crawford (Annis)

    Attorney and Mediator.
    Family Law/Divorce.
    Monterey, CA.

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